Last name ? Should you let go ...

One of the first changes in life when u get married is , is the change in your name ...and when you think of it , i would say it is the most important ... and something that u realise right on the face .. .every single day ...I mean I cant ever forget an incident ... when i had a appointment in Pune , and was waiting ... and the receptionist called Mrs Kumar, cause my last name had changed ...and she called again ..i was sitting right there in front of her and my mind just wudnt register ..who she was calling ..and she kinda knew it was me ...so was looking right at me ... and this was the beginning ...when you start gaining a new identity ..and maybe losing what u were all ur life ... and it takes it time ...Now I can debate on why the women change the name and the men dont ...but this is one feminist discussion that strikes u once in a while ... well , there is a opportunity in here for the females as well ...say for some weird reason , i never liked my surname , i have a perfectly acceptable reason to have a new one ...u have a choice suddenly ...to be what u were , or turn to be someone else ...men dont have this luxury ..u r stuck with one identity all ur life ...wherein i get to to change ..for better or worse ... if i want to ;-) ....If you see it is a big thing ..to be able to have a choice second time in life ... you grow into being urself and now you have a conscious choice ...to be what u wud want ....generally marriage involves moving as well ..so the change can be complete , u have people around u ..who dont even know u , so u can kinda be complete makeover ... name and attitude and everything .. guess enuf for the day..or maybe just this time ...will get back ...